Happy New Year Everyone! I know Innocent smoothies have said it is officially to late to say that anymore, but I haven’t been blogging much recently and this is my first post of the 2020’s. That’s a little bit scary really. the 2010’s were an interesting decade, but I think 2020 could be the best yet, don’t you?!
A little look down memory lane to begin with. Well, this time in 2010 I was back at secondary school entering my penultimate term as a school pupil, and beginning to experience the freedom of having my own car, being 18, and the prospect of University. It didn’t pan out as smoothly as that, but looking back it was a relatively stress and worry free time. Since then it is safe to say I have done A LOT. I realise that sounds like I am bragging a little, but I feel like I am at a point in my life where I don’t have a huge amount to show for my life other than my experiences and my memories. So here is a few things I have done in the 2010’s:
- Left school with a set of A Levels that allowed me to go to University
- Graduated Lancaster University with a BSc Geography Degree
- Visited 26 countries/islands (Kenya, Italy, Spain, USA, Canada, New Zealand, Australia, Thailand, Laos, Malaysia, Greece, Turkey, Croatia, Singapore, Vietnam, Cambodia, Zimbabwe, Zambia, South Africa, Dominica, Antigua, St. Kitts and Nevis, Russia, Virgins Islands, St. Maarten, Vatican City)
- 13 Jobs (at Lancaster University Bars, Lancaster University Tours, Blackburn Rovers, Liverpool FC, Everton FC, Liverpool Echo Arena, Local Newspaper Delivery, Rock Court Surgery, Alder Hey Hospital, Neighbourhood Café, ONS/Census Collection, TEFL Teacher, Avios)
- Lived abroad (Thailand)
- Moved out of my parents house
- Worked for/Volunteered for/fundraised for multiple charities
This list is by no means exclusive, but it does show that my decade has been spent doing things, even if the tangibility of those things is questionable. It actually makes me quite happy to see some of the things I have achieved and seen and done, and deep down I do know that it was a full on and exciting decade.
There is a thing of comparing yourself to others, however, that is inevitable. I left school, passed through University and into adult life (taking out most of my 20’s) and in that time I have watched many friends buy their first houses, get married, have children, enter successful careers, and that tangibly gives them a level of ‘success’ that people mark them buy, and thus make you down by. It’s quite a hard yardstick to follow, and even though I am good and not doing that for the most part, feeling like there is little to show for your best decade of life left me feeling a bit crummy around New Year.
So yes, this retrospective has definitely helped, and now I am going to start looking forward to my 2020’s, and with it entering my 30’s and all that the next phase of my life will bring. I have all but abandoned my 30 before 30 list as my priorities have changed and my focuses shifted. I think instead I want to try and broaden horizons and increase the stability of my life so that when I want to do new things or have new experiences that don’t have a physical achievement to show someone, I feel comfortable in what I have to show for my time and what I have to stow away as a valuable life experience and memory.
I am pretty lucky really, I have had a great time so far in my life and the good far out weighs the bad. I have lived what could be considered a largely privileged life, and I want to make the most of that now. I want to see and experience more, I want to have more under my own name, I want to stop comparing myself to others and stop to realise that what I have done so far is both OK and has (in the large part) made me quite happy. So, with that, I’m going to start thinking about things I want from this decade. I want to think about the things I want to work towards, save for, experience, and build and not just an arbitrary list of things to tick off.
I am going to sign off and wish you all the best for a happy, healthy, and prosperous year and decade!